Archive for May, 2013

Posting my mom’s very young & beautiful picture on my Facebook page has elicited so many loving comments from those who knew her and those who did not.  For those who did not, the picture for me captures the sweetness & beauty & kindness that so many mentioned. I never heard her say an unkind word about anyone and her best friend often told me the same.  And yes, she was extraordinary in those & many other ways.

What I discovered about her (& myself) from the 20 short years I spent with her continues to shape my life.  Having had breast cancer & surgery at the tender age of 33, after a very late-in-the-game diagnosis, she was given 6 months to live by her surgeon who saw the extent of the metastasis.  Apparently she & my dad had a very different idea about her longevity.

Her courage, spirit & determination over the next 10 years, through surgeries, experimental treatments, chemo & radiation were beyond inspirational and needless to say, had profound effects on our young family.  Each day was one more day that she was with us, albeit perhaps the last.  Each day was challenging, often emotionally beyond my coping skills and ultimately precious.

Her oncologist, in his condolence letter, said he was sorry medical science had not advanced enough to save her and yet she had still defied her diagnosis.  She passed 43 years ago at the age of 43. Angelina Jolie’s news yesterday was a reminder of what the disease or even the possibility means to a family, a community.  Her choices were powerful, courageous & inspirational as is she… As was my mom, Natalie Louise Robin.